Have you recently wondered, “When did I start being so boring?” It’s a question that creeps into our minds from time to time, and it’s worth exploring. What’s your secret daydream? That one thing you’ve always wanted to do, but you’ve kept safely tucked away, hidden from the world. Perhaps it’s dancing in public just for the joy of it, skydiving, or starting a new hobby. What’s holding you back from experiencing the joy, spontaneity, and curiosity that you know you have, but seems just out of reach, a little dormant?
As children, we naturally pushed boundaries, tested limits, and did things simply for the joy of it. Yet, somewhere along the way, we may feel we lost touch with that side of ourselves. There can be many reasons for that, disappointments, fear of rejection or being made fun of, being scolded or told off. Life happens and piles on, we get told what ‘adult responsibilities’ are, what we need to achieve, and bury our free, innate ‘soul-child’ on the way.
Can we have both, some kind of balance between spontaneous and free, and structured and ‘adult’, and use it to our advantage? Wouldn’t life be so much more rich?
‘Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.’ ~ E.E. Cummings
The practice of self-inquiry is the action of looking inward and asking ourselves fundamental questions that reveal our inner essence, and aspects about ourselves that are hidden. It is commonly done as a process with others, or guided, but you can also do it by yourself in contemplation or by journaling, which can lead to insight and greater self-knowledge.
For example:
Contemplate something you really want to try but never give yourself the freedom to do.
Notice what comes emotionally when you think about it, fear, embarrassment, a feeling of imminent failure, dismissal, it’s not worth it, ‘nice idea but not relevant’, ‘I’m too old for this’… and so on
What does this ‘want’ really symbolize, and where does it really come from? What does it represent?
Can I sit with these emotions, feel them in my body, and breathe with them? Ask yourself, What would be the worst outcome if I did try this? Maybe you realise, despite your story: ‘This too, I can get through.’
How can I integrate this in my life, what would be fun to try this week, this month and what will I get out of it?
This practice may give rise to understanding something about yourself, and give you hope and incentive to move on from it. The key is integrating your desires into your life in all areas by taking action, like re-training yourself towards joy and spontaneity. Start small, and little by little bring these long-lost dreams into your daily life. This week, this month, take a step toward something you’ve always wanted to do that makes you happy. Or say yes to a crazy idea that is outside of your routine. Do something unusual. Expand your appetite for life and let it inspire you!
Becoming friendly with our inner wildness can be an important and life-changing path. It’s about rediscovering the innocent, free, wild, and open part of us that once made us feel truly alive. It’s not about acting “childish” or being overly “adult”; it’s about finding a balance and connecting to the essence of our soul-child. It’s time to release it, give it the freedom it needs, and use its energy to your advantage.
So, the next time you ask yourself, “When did I start being so boring?” remember that it’s never too late to reconnect with your inner wildness and live life to the fullest.
Emilio Mercuriali is a visionary leader in the field of self-discovery and personal growth. Specializing in the Essence work and the Enneagram, Emilio’s retreats offer a unique blend of ancient spiritual wisdom and modern psychology. He will be leading the Joy of Living Retreat in Mandali this coming December.
What do the elements have to do with our own personal experiences?
I believe that the elements as we experience and see them in the outside world, in nature, are not separate from our internal nature, they are like a mirror. We all have fire, water, earth, and air, as a part of our structure, both in our physical body, and also energetically. As the Tao says, ‘What is outside is inside, what is below is above”, and the same goes for the elements.
I think the way we relate to them the most is by trying to continually balance and find harmony within ourselves. If I tend to be fiery – active, quick-thinking, and sometimes a bit aggressive – I might approach the world and my emotions with a lot of energy and not shy away from confrontations. On the other hand, if I’m more watery – calm, and go with the flow – I’ll probably handle things in a more relaxed way. Sometimes there is too much or too little of one quality, then we can take action to find equilibrium.
What does each element represent to us?
Fire is the element of alchemy, transformation for positive change. Related to manifestation and willpower. Fire has also been used forever as a way of gathering, warming, and nourishing.. It accelerates, the mind, and our actions, but only to a certain point as it can become aggressive, and then we need to counterbalance it, which brings us to water.
Water is the element of creation, the essence of life, and also represents emotions and cleansing. The nature of water is flowing, it always leads somewhere, and it lets go. Like a river, it is open, and so are our emotions. People are always drawn to water, it harmonises the constant changes in life. If it doesn’t flow, it is stagnant, or stuck.
Earth is the element of stability, our grounding, our roots, our foundations. It’s our bones, our structure, and our ability to deal with survival, food, and shelter. It’s very primal – our instincts, touch, smell. Too much earth, like too little water, if doesn’t move, it becomes rigid.
The air element is that of expansion, and also unity. It balances the earth element, and gives space and openness. It moves things that are stagnant and brings perspective. It is life, it is the breath, when you are inhaling, the whole universe exhales. The air is shared by all of us, at the same time, everywhere. It connects us to the infinite, the heavens, and represents the connection between earth and sky, and the beyond.
It’s easy to see how they are interconnected and represent qualities of our inner world.
What kind of simple rituals can we try out to better embody this understanding?
When we are aware of what is present or unbalanced, we can use this internal ‘logic’ or knowledge about the elements to find harmony. For example, if you need more grounding or centering, you could jump, and shake the body, your bones, creating some vibration. Walk barefoot, look at a mountain. If you are overly reactive and even tend to be rude, there may be an excess of fire, so going to a river, taking a bath, or mindfully showering can help balance that. It’s about feeling inside and noticing what is present.
Visualisations are a very powerful tool as well. You can lie down or sit, visualising nature. Imagine you are in the water, floating, immersing, imagine you are on a big cliff with a beautiful view, feeling perspective, expanding the mind. By visualising nature, we bring in the energetics and frequencies of the elements.
Especially if you are living in the city, it’s important to take some air, take some space. Go to a park, somewhere with some green. You’ll notice that even after five minutes of walking you’re already a little calmer. If you can’t go outside, close your eyes and you can listen to some nice music of water rolling or the sounds of the sea. So by simply connecting with the elements, you are in that harmonic healing field that they create.
What made us forget our connection to the natural world?
As a society, we rely on an excess of the fire element, and it seems that the way the world runs is dependent on it. It’s often driven by manipulation, control, and ego, resulting in an imbalanced focus on capitalism and the economy.
An excess of the fire element has caused our hearts to close and our actions to become more self-centered, rather than heart-centered, literally burning the earth. We celebrate excessive productivity and consumerism and prioritize values that are different from those of living in harmony with nature, further distancing ourselves from it. The need for growth and expansion, even in our jobs, leaves us with little time to follow the rhythm of nature, we might just see a forest on our screen because we don’t have time to enjoy one regularly. This unstopping need for growth has twisted our relationship with the environment as if nature were an endless supermarket for our production and waste.
Why do we feel a natural interest in this topic at this point in time?
I think our current interest in this topic is because as humans, we tend to follow trends and topics but also, these interests often arise for a reason. The pandemic has played a big role in our heightened awareness. It has brought us to a point where we recognize the urgency to reconnect, not just with nature by physically being in it, but also by remembering our inner primordial wisdom. This inner wisdom is becoming more apparent, and we are beginning to understand its potential through practices like nature ceremonies and rituals.
The more we focus our thoughts on these connections, the more they energetically manifest. For example, if someone experiences the serenity of a river and then encounters a water-related ceremony, they make an unconscious connection and then may wish to continue working with water. People who may have previously seen practices as too ‘out there’ or only for certain groups are now realizing the benefits. They find that participating in ceremonies, like those involving water, helps them cultivate qualities like calmness and fluidity, which are associated with the element.
What tools do you suggest to connect to the elements?
The key is keeping it simple. Begin by closing your eyes and considering how you can connect with each element. For water, focus on your breath while near water, and observe its flow. With fire, sit calmly in front of a candle, paying attention to the flame as it dances and changes. Incorporate conscious drinking rituals by leaving a glass of water under the full or new moon and drinking it with love and intention. For the air element, practice deep breaths, imagining open spaces or birds flying, and using long exhales to calm your nervous system.
You can also connect with Earth by holding a stone or hugging a tree, feeling its stability and grounding energy. Visualize your roots connecting with the tree and the Earth beneath. Trees serve as a powerful symbol of stability and nourishment from the Earth. Remember, even the simplest practices can be deeply meaningful and effective in connecting with the elements.
What are your intentions, and some of your methods, in helping others connect to the elements and their inner wisdom?
It’s by sharing what I personally nourish and heal from. I follow what I feel in my body, whether it’s the Earth, the sun, or the wind, and I offer these experiences to those who resonate with them. Everything I share, I learned from practicing.
Sound is my primary tool, as it allows for expansive connections in various practices, including breathwork, yoga, dance, movement therapy, tantra, and meditation. I believe in combining different approaches as they come to me, if people need to jump, or to sing, we do that. Sometimes I use aromas, cacao, or visualisations. I emphasise that we all enter through the body, in whichever way we can. This cohesion is essential to me, ensuring that everyone can access a meditative, heart-centered space. My work creates energy journeys, where sound is an essential container, as it allows us to shift the mind’s thinking state towards a meditative and connected experience.
Today, we celebrate MOVEMENT! There is something magical that happens when we consciously move, whether it’s in a yoga class, walking, hiking, dancing or whichever way you love to shake and wiggle your being. Movement of all forms plays such a big part of our spiritual and wellbeing practices, and also in what we offer at Mandali. In this article, we asked some of our teachers and guides: “In your discipline, what is the connection between movement and meditation?”, and we got some insightful and interesting answers.
Silvia Eriksson – Yoga Teacher
I think movement can be seen in yoga in several ways: First, as a way of purifying and strengthening the body (Tapas), moving our energies, becoming aware of and training our breath, in order to prepare ourselves for meditation – sitting still and resting in awareness. When I don’t move, meditation becomes an effort, and is not only hard on my body, but the excess stagnant energy can lead to restlessness or being caught of in stories of the mind. On the other hand, when I don’t allow stillness, my energy remains a bit scattered. So it’s all about balance.
Movement is also healing on so many levels. Dancing helped me overcome social anxiety and brings me immense joy, Pilates and yoga asana helped me heal injuries, trauma and corrected my posture, a bonus being a strong back, and supple hips, help me sit upright comfortably for meditation. It was movement that changed my life ultimately and led me to a spiritual path.
Alas, meditation and movement practice ripples out into action and creativity. A great way to bring meditation to everyday life is through being aware and present of movement. So now, movement becomes meditation itself. Moving consciously is about becoming intimate and friendly with yourself. Being open, undistracted, tuning into the body as we move and riding the wave of the breath, emotions, clearing out internal barriers is like a dance, cultivating presence and closeness with our physical body. We close gaps of separation. Feeling in, listening, without judgment – some might call this self love, authenticity. As I often tell my students, what we learn on the mat practicing Asanas, we take into our lives. Like the balance between ease and effort, when to push, when to let go.
Moving consciously is about becoming intimate and friendly with yourself. Being open, undistracted, tuning into the body as we move and riding the wave of the breath, emotions, clearing out internal barriers is like a dance, cultivating presence and closeness with our physical body. We close gaps of separation.
Nishta & Evangelos (Four Ways to Freedom) – Conscious Movement & Meditation
In ancient times, seekers who wished to understand the meaning of life would lay down at night and watch the movement of stars and planets. During the day they would observe the movement of the clouds and the sun as well as the changing natural landscape through the seasons. When you look up at the sky, you feel a sense of stillness and eternity. It’s quiet, unborn, and full of potential but not static. Sometimes a storm comes to disrupt the quiet sky. It’s a natural fluid tango. In tango you pause and then move.
You can’t have movement without meditation just like you can’t have stillness without action or chaos. They are codependent lovers. Healthy movement emerges from stillness and if it isn’t born from the still womb of tranquility, it manifests as frantic unstable energy. Too much stillness can make you dull while too much non-stop movement can exhaust you. Finding the balance of how they work together can revolutionize your life.
Meditation is the art of sitting with nothing but the quiet mind and watching the movement of life. When we sit and get really still, we see that movement is simply a declaration of change, creativity and evolution.
If we wish to be a master of our own lives, we must master the art of meditation as well as the art of moving gracefully and mindfully through life. They go hand in hand.
If we wish to be a master of our own lives, we must master the art of meditation as well as the art of moving gracefully and mindfully through life. They go hand in hand. The deeper your movement practice, the greater the stillness of mind. The deeper you can go into silence and meditate, the more you can confidently move with life’s unpredictable events. You are here to explore polarities. Some call it the cosmic dance of life and whether you know it or not, it is moving through you right now but you might miss it if you can’t be still for one tiny moment!
Prafulla Giuseppe Carnaghi – Nature walk guide
To me ‘spiritual practice’ means bringing meditation into the small “movements” in my daily life.
Meditation cannot be confined to the time I sit cross-legged with eyes closed.
It’s the moment I get up and start moving in the flow of everyday life that my meditation is challenged. It’s reminding myself to be present in small movements like washing my hands or peeling an apple.
When I walk in nature, listening to its sounds and to its silence, I find a deeper sense of stillness, and this becomes my spiritual practice, a precious doorway to inner silence, a space beyond thinking. This way I’m the ‘space’ in which all movements (my body, my thoughts, my emotions) happen.
When I walk in nature, listening to its sounds and to its silence, I find a deeper sense of stillness, and this becomes my spiritual practice, a precious doorway to inner silence, a space beyond thinking
Gijs Fermie – Kum Nye (Tibetan Yoga)
Movement can serve as a preliminary to meditation, a state of present pure awareness. In Kum Nye practice (Tibetan Yoga) we integrate movement, massage and meditation into one holistic discipline. Here we first practice movement exercises in order to stimulate energy within the body. Now the feeling-experience in the body, linked with the energy of the breath, will massage our being from the inside out. This inner massage in turn will allow us to relax more and release tensions.
Kum Nye practice brings us to a calm, clear and creative state of being, which is the heart of meditation.
And at the same time it will create more space to embody this free flow of energy, expanding our presence in space. In the end this process will open-up within us a warm and deep, sacred space of infinite awareness. Kum Nye practice brings us to a calm, clear and creative state of being, which is the heart of meditation. Movement can serve as well as a form of integration; meditation in action. For this to come about we would need to bring movement, stillness and awareness together. And in this way, by practicing body-awareness that leads into space-awareness, movement becomes meditation.
How do you feel movement intersects with your discipline? What’s your favorite way to move? Drop us a note in the comments, we’d love to hear!
Summer is upon us and we are feeling the heat of this especially warm year! It can be challenging to find energy and can become a little overwhelming, especially if we are not on vacation and have a busy day. Here are some suggestions from our beloved yoga teacher & wellness coach Julia on how to keep cool this summer, as well as a delicious, refreshing recipe:
Choose to wear loose, natural and breathable fabrics such as linen or cotton and wear light colors.
Drink lots of good quality water (tap water is not the best idea). Spring water is the best. Herbal teas are also great in summer, especially fresh mint tea.
Avoid being in the sun between 10am and 2pm.
Plan doing sports or other activities during the cooler time of the day.
Limit consumption of animal products as they have a warming effect on the body.
Include more raw foods in your diet such as salads, local fresh fruit, vegetables. Green juices are loaded with vitamins and minerals and have a cooling effect on the body but make sure it is not very sweet.
Additionally, here is a quick and easy green soup that you can have any time of the day and it will keep you cool, full of energy and healthy. Feel free to experiment with the ingredients and measurements to make it to your liking.
Green Gazpacho
Yields- 3-4 servings
Ingredients:
1 ripe tomato, cut into quarters
2 medium cucumbers, cut in manageable sizes
½ zucchini (optional)
1-2 stalks of celery (optional)
1 small avocado
1 bunch of any greens (lettuce, kale, parsley, spinach, etc)
1 lemon juiced or apple cider to taste
a handful of basil leaves
2-3 cloves garlic
Sea salt to taste
1 ½-2 cups water (adjust to your liking)
Garnish:
1 avocado diced (optional)
1 cucumber and or radish diced
1/4 cup freshly chopped cilantro or parsley
Directions
Combine all the ingredients in a food processor or blender; puree until smooth. Cover and refrigerate until slightly chilled. Garnish each portion and enjoy.
Stay cool and share photos of your soup with us in the comments below!
Babies have been born for hundreds of thousands of years. The wisdom of pregnancy can be found everywhere. It is programmed in our cells, in our spirits, in the collective field and in the very earth we live on. I genuinely believe that finding our way back to these sources will greatly impact our lives and generations to come.
During my own pregnancies I was on a quest. Living in the West, a society where everything is organized and controlled, I automatically followed the path that was wired in my brain by society, the system and movies. Finding a midwife, re-organizing the house, and making lists of stuff to buy. I sensed fear and control within the birth system and my spirit started calling for attention. I followed this calling, chose a different path, and learned many valuable lessons along the way.
Realizing that everything I think, eat, feel, and do, impacts my baby and that the same was true for my mother and grandmother, changed my whole perspective. Our cellular wiring starts far before conception. The way we navigate through life and experience it is stored in our cells, including the ones in the eggs we conceive from. As women we are born with all eggs, which means they have been inside our grandmothers as well. Meaning, the way she is wired has been imprinted also in our cells. This is how, on a physical level, patterns, trauma, and beliefs are being passed on and I believe the same happens on a spiritual level. We are not born as a blank page.
Giving birth itself is another event where deep wiring on a cellular level happens. So, the way we give birth not only has an impact on our own life as birthing mothers, but also those of our babies and the future generations to come.
Our bodies and spirits work hard during pregnancy. We might be tired, nauseous, or sensitive and perhaps struggle with the changes that are happening.
But what if we looked at pregnancy from a different perspective?
What if we listened to our body and spirit and followed her lead?
What if we use pregnancy as a massive opportunity for personal growth, deepening our understanding of life, spirituality and breaking the generational traumas?
What if we embrace our femininity in all ways? The slowing down, the softness, the sensitivity and fully allow everything that wants to come to life, so we can transform.
By doing so, we can break generational cycles and bless our path as we enter this new phase in life. Gracefully feeling all emotions, embracing the tiredness, and having long nights, knowing that during our sleep is when our soul meets our baby’s soul. Working together to create a new life.
There are many tools we can use to support us on this journey. Meditation, yoga, dance, breath, affirmations, and positive birth stories, to name a few. But it all starts with a conscious choice. A choice to be in the now. To make space and time to be, to feel, to learn and to prepare for the biggest initiation in life as a birthing mother.
One of the topics I personally find especially important during pregnancy is grounding.
“Women are branches of mother earth. Everything she can, everything she carries, is ours. She is the mother of all. It is with her where we find our wisdom.” ~ Haydi Moustafa
Mother earth carries so much wisdom. Wisdom into which we can tap. She is where we find our grounding, our main teacher and supporter. She carries us as she constantly blesses us with her life creational force.
Be in nature.
Look at the flowers & trees.
Bless yourself with the water.
Sit by the fire.
Pray to the moon.
Ask her for support and guidance.
Sing with her.
Dance with her.
Bring the elements into your home and set up an altar.
Ritualizing ways to connect to the elements and bless our way can be immensely helpful.
There is much for us to learn from Indigenous cultures. Tribes that still live very grounded. In balance with the earth. Receiving and giving.
What if we combine this ancient with our modern wisdom?
Haydi has been a part of the Mandali family from the start and now organizes the very first PregnancyWisdom Retreat with us from the 3-7 July 2023. Read more about her story here.
Chances are that if you’ve been at Mandali, you’ve had the pleasure of savouring some of the delicious, heart warming dishes lovingly prepared by Chef Viramo. A coming together of traditional Italian recipes, wholesome vegetarian stews, fresh crispy salads and of course, his unforgettable Tiramisu, his cooking is a part of the essence of what Mandali is all about. Viramo has been with us since our conception, and in this interview he shares parts of his story, delicious culinary secrets, and a delightful spring recipe.
How did you end up as a chef in the retreat space?
When I started cooking at the age of 18, I began by assisting others to understand different types of foods. This was in my own village, working at my family’s restaurant in the Venetia region of Italy. Later, at the age of 22, I moved to London, and worked as a helper cook in a vegetarian restaurant. It was during that time that I also became familiar with the Osho center, which is the reason I traveled there.
My encounter with the spiritual world happened casually during a solo holiday in Sardinia. One morning, I woke up on the beach with a sense of timelessness and met a peaceful German guy. He mentioned meeting a guru in India, which fascinated me.
When I moved to London, after working in a vegetarian restaurant for a while, I joined the Osho community and from the very beginning, I loved it. It was a wave of new people, new friends, a new way of life. It was a happy time, away from my village in Venetia where not much was happening. Joining the commune felt like a big exodus from my small life revolving around my family business and the restaurant.
Since I was the only Italian there, the woman leading the commune assumed I must be a good cook so I started to share my skills. It’s funny how things work out like that, right? So I started cooking for 200 people every day, constantly learning along the way.
As I developed my spiritual practice and remained connected to the community, I chose to work exclusively in retreat centers and seminar houses. This allowed me to easily find a job and create a fully vegetarian kitchen wherever I went, and I also really like to cook like that, to have enough time to make fresh dishes for everyone to share. In a ‘normal’ restaurant, where each dish is plated, the food is not made with the same energy, the same freshness. Lots of things are pre-cut and prepared to put together quickly, and I prefer to cook in a more simple, family style way.
What’s the story behind your famously delicious tiramisu at Mandali? Everyone talks about it.
Tiramisu comes from a popular family recipe in the region of Venice, and the first restaurant that started serving it on their menu in the 1960’s was in our town. My uncle got the recipe from a cook there, and so we began serving it at our restaurant. The word spread as my uncle was well connected, and soon chefs from Milan were coming over to ask for the recipe. My mother was even a little skeptical at first to include it in the menu as it seemed like more of a family dessert, made with cookies, not something for a restaurant, but look what happened! Soon even people getting married started ordering it from us as their wedding cake.
Do you still make it that same way, and do you love it?
Yes, with Lady Finger cookies dipped in coffee, mascarpone mixed with sugar and egg whites and Masala liquor, topped with chocolate powder. It’s very simple in the end. I loved tiramisu as a kid and still do!
Your food has a distinct feeling, a sense of home. What’s the secret behind it? Do you follow a specific cooking philosophy like Ayurveda or macrobiotics?
Initially, in my early 20s, I followed a strict vegetarian diet for a long time. However, I eventually developed allergies and intolerances to certain foods, which is when I got into macrobiotics, and this changed the way I related to food.
Now I don’t strictly follow any particular diet or school. I incorporate a bit of everything in my own way. First and foremost, I don’t like being strict about anything. Coming from Italy, where food is highly regarded and diverse in every region, I didn’t want to abandon that aspect in my vegetarian cooking. So I adopted a bit of macrobiotics to provide a framework.
What exactly is macrobiotics? Is it a specific way of eating?
Yes, macrobiotics is a philosophy of eating that extends to a way of being. It originates from Japan and is based on the belief that we are what we eat. According to macrobiotics, if we consume healthy food in a balanced manner, we should remain healthy. The body doesn’t appreciate heavy, overly filling meals that require excessive digestion. Macrobiotics taught me to find a balanced approach to eating. For example, having around 30% grains, 30% vegetables, 20% protein, and 20% salads or fruits in each meal. It’s important to have a bit of everything. Grains serve as a foundational fuel, but balance is key. Vegetables and protein should always be part of every meal. Macrobiotics also emphasizes not overcooking vegetables.
Furthermore, a crucial aspect is the importance of chewing food thoroughly. Digestion actually begins in the mouth with saliva breaking down the food. Eastern cultures are known for their extensive chewing habits. By chewing food properly, you eat in moderation and feel satisfied earlier. It’s essential to perceive eating as a blessing, a ritual that nourishes and keeps us alive. Chewing extensively allows the organs to absorb all the minerals and vitamins
Can you walk me through a dish that you’re particularly fond of creating for yourself or others?
My favorite dish to make for myself is brown rice with veggies and seaweed, and also soups, all kinds of soups. I like to keep it simple.
Depending on my mood, sometimes I fry a mix of fresh onions and veggies and add them to the rice. Sometimes I prefer to cook everything together, the rice and vegetables at the same time, but not too long, so it doesn’t get mushy. Brown rice takes 45 minutes to cook, so I add the veggies when there are 20 minutes left. The onions and carrots give a delicious simple and natural flavor.
I also love cooking Indian dishes, like Daal, which is a traditional lentil soup with spices and ghee, and fresh raw salads. (Viramo has generously shared his Fennel and Orange salad recipe at the end of this blog, and our mouths are already watering, especially if you’ve tasted it in Mandali.)
Is there a connection between your spirituality and your food? Do you feel like there’s an intersection?
Yes, definitely! When you’re cooking, it’s a process that requires you to be fully present in the moment. It’s about following your intuition and being highly attentive. You must ensure that things don’t burn or overcook because you’re preparing food for others. It’s more than just someone buying a book or a piece of jewelry; it becomes a part of them when they consume your food. It’s an intimate and crucial point to consider. Therefore, it’s important to remain relaxed and centered while cooking, rather than simply being relaxed. In a restaurant setting, where individuals have different preferences, the kitchen can become chaotic. It can be challenging to infuse the food with a lot of energy in such situations. Everything needs to be done quickly and becomes automatic.
What I’ve noticed here is that when I’m cooking for a large group of people, let’s say 40 or 50, I have ample time to organize, cook, and prepare. I can even ask for help if needed. The food is prepared on the same day, at that very moment, and is immediately consumed. Almost 99% of the food is freshly made. There’s no storing it on the side for days and letting people take it later. It’s all prepared and consumed at the same time.
This approach gives a more holistic and spiritual perspective to the restaurant experience. It’s like cooking for your family, expressing love through food.
This way, you’re more relaxed, allowing people to take as much as they want. You can suggest moderation, advising them not to overindulge but to come back if they’re still hungry, promoting balance. People tend to eat a lot when they find something they like or want to mix different items together.
Sometimes, we even do meditation or simply stop for a moment in the kitchen. I yell “stop,”, or ring a bell, and everyone freezes for one minute, and then continue, just to bring everyone back to the present moment. You can feel the lightness in the kitchen almost immediately.
Lastly, what’s your recipe for a fulfilling life?
My recipe for a fulfilling life? I haven’t found it yet. 🙂 I can imagine what it can be, but I have experienced moments and days of fulfillment. At the foundation, I would place meditation, simply being. That’s what makes things go in a different, more natural way. Just meditation, any practice. It helps solve all the knots, all the problems somehow. It disentangles.
And of course, you need to share with others. You need to be open to sharing your feelings. It’s not spontaneous with people, especially if you work in normal restaurants. It’s impossible to relate this way with people. That is one of the main reasons I chose to work in retreat centers, I have found my way through many different connections in the spiritual world, always meeting loving people and opportunities where I can share my food.
Fennel and Orange Salad
Ingredients: 3 fresh fennel bulbs, 3 blood oranges, 1 tablespoon of pine nuts, 3 tablespoons of toasted pumpkin seeds, 2 tablespoons of pitted Taggiasca olives, 1 bunch of chopped parsley, juice of 1/2 lemon, extra virgin olive oil, salt, and pepper. Optional: Fresh parmesan flakes, grenadine seeds
Method: Take the fennel bulbs and, after washing and trimming them, removing a slice from the bottom and the green stalks, stand them upright. Cut each bulb in half from top to bottom, starting from the widest part. Then, with the flat side on the cutting board, slice it as thinly as possible. As you cut it, drizzle it with lemon juice to prevent it from turning dark and oxidizing.
Peel the oranges, removing the skin from each segment. Alternatively, simply cut each segment in half.
Next, mix all the ingredients together and season with salt, pepper, lemon juice, and extra virgin olive oil.
Garnish the salad with sprigs of parsley, the optional grenadine seeds and parmesan flakes
Real Happiness is not based on external circumstances.
This is one of the main lessons we receive in our studies of yoga philosophy, so how can you feel more happiness even if life is not always up to giving it?
These are the 6 keys to happiness:
1. Know Yourself
Get to know yourself on deeper levels. Use your yoga practice to connect to the part in you that is everlasting, permanent through all of life’s changes. Your soul’s essence always remains at ease and in peace, you’ll get to know it with meditation and a calm mind, mostly in moments of stillness.
Knowing yourself also includes getting to understand what triggers you and acknowledging your “dark sides” and your limitations. Yin Yoga is a wonderful practice for this.
2. Fulfill Your Potential
Seeds need sun, water and nutrition in order to grow. In the same sense you need to gather your forces and your power to fulfill your potential, your desires. Who are the people who see you and support you to grow? What practices help you gain more confidence and courage?
3. Be Courageous
Choose to live from your heart, no matter if life’s circumstances are pleasant or challenging. Cultivate your intuition and follow it. Become aware of the power of intention and resolve, it will help you push through any obstacles. You are committed to stay true to yourself and this will make you feel proud of yourself.
4. Serve The Greater Good
Remember that you are a part of the bigger web, you are not isolated. Whenever self doubt and fear creeps in remember the greater good and how you can serve with what you have to offer. This will be stronger that your ego which might want to keep you small. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world, so keep sharing your story and your light.
Here’s a wonderful quote by Martha Graham:
“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique, and if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium; and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, not how it compares with other expression. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep open and aware directly to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open.”
5. Non-Attachment To The Outcome
Ever felt a deep inner calling? Maybe you didn’t follow it because you were to concerned about the outcome? Let go of the attachment to the outcome, do what you need to do because it’s your inner calling. You will find a deep satisfaction in doing so and inspire others to follow. The universe works in magical ways!
6. Have Faith
Cultivating faith is the understanding that life is perfect in all its imperfections. It doesn’t need to be any different for you to be happy. Trust that life reflects back to you exactly what you need to learn to grow. Imperfection leads to Evolution. Your affirmation: I may need to change, but Life does not.
Which of the 6 keys resonated most with you? I love to hear from you in the comments. And if you’d like to listen to these 6 keys in a yin yoga practice please head over to Dagmar’s YouTube channel for the video. Enjoy!
When I was in my late teens and after moving out from my parents home, I was living in a small apartment in Italy that was located on a busy main street. At times when I was in the kitchen preparing a cup of tea or doing nothing in particular, I would notice that the sound of the traffic on the road or the water boiling in the tea kettle was suddenly carrying a particular flavor, very difficult to describe…almost like a mixture of nostalgia and longing: as if every sound had a long tail, like an echo. They were also losing any connotation like being pleasurable or disturbing. They would become just sounds, devoid of any quality I would usually attribute to them….almost as if they would become perfect just as they were.
Those particular moments remained an unresolved mystery for me, until a few years later:
I am sitting in a large meditation hall in India listening to my spiritual teacher Osho, commenting on some writings of a Zen master who is describing the different stages one encounters when entering deeper states of meditation.
My attention awakens in the moment I hear Osho reading from the Zen master’s text something like:
“…and as you move deeper into your inner silence and stillness all sounds start having a particular quality, like an echo…as if coming from a distant valley…”
This was the first time anyone would give words to that unusual experience I had and it helped me realize that these moments happened when I was in a generally relaxed and unoccupied state of mind, like a natural state of meditation.
Often the same experience would happen to me while listening to Osho talk. Just sitting there, with nothing to do…just listening…and suddenly all sounds seemed to be situated in the perfect space and time with an incredible sweetness to them. A train whistling in the distance, a dog barking, the sound of a woman sweeping the street, a child crying or the wind blowing through the bamboo… in those moments every sound became an intrinsic part of the great symphony of the present moment.
To add to my intrigue, quotes from various masters also began to come my way:
“When I am silent, I fall into the place where everything is music.” – Rumi
“Where is the door to God?
In the sound of a barking dog
In the ring of a hammer
In a drop of rain
In the face of everyone I see.” – Hafiz
“Start listening to sounds, let music be your meditation.
Listen to the sounds, all kinds of sounds. They are all divine – even the market noise, even the sounds that are created in the traffic. This airplane, that train …
all sounds have to be listened to so attentively, silently and lovingly… as if you are listening to music.
And you will be surprised: you can transform all sounds into music; they are music.” – Osho
I started to explore this open door into the ever-present moment, and during these explorations I discovered that
the space in which all sounds echo, or “the valley” as described above, is an ever present silence.
Just like light cannot exist without darkness or matter without space, sound cannot exist without silence.
We could say that silence is for the ears what space is for the eyes.
In fact, to me music is an attempt to play those notes (objects) – to arrange them together – in a harmonious way that does not override silence but enhances it. Like in interior design or in Feng Shui one tries to place furniture in a fashion that creates a feeling of harmony, where space is not “filled” but “played” with and emphasized.
One of the problems I encountered is that it can be difficult to tune into silence or space because our attention is very much object-oriented rather than space-oriented.
For example, if I were to enter a room the first thing I would notice would be the furniture and not the space per se – even when “room” actually means “space”.
So let’s say that in a room there is a piano and some chairs and I decide to take the piano to another room. When I return and I look where the piano had been standing, what do I see? Space.
Removing the object revealed the space that was there before the piano arrived and is there after the piano has been removed. In other words, it was always there but it was “occupied”. At the same time the space between the chairs also helps to distinguish where one chair ends and another starts. So we can say that all objects exist in space, are contained by space and are also defined by space.
In the same way we can perceive all sounds as floating in an ever-present silence. Silence contains them and defines them. When a sound ends, silence becomes more obvious and tangible, although it was there all the time. Silence is the container and sound is the contained.
Silence is the blue sky within which all sound-clouds move.
Silence is the white canvas on which all sounds are painted.
Our physical senses can be precious anchors and doorways into the present moment. If we give our full attention to deep listening, in that very moment we are taking away the fuel from the continuous stream of thoughts, redirecting that energy into presence.
This makes listening a great meditation tool (and the same is true for the other senses).
But to have this tool activated it is necessary that we are able to listen to any of the sounds without labeling them either “pleasant” or “disturbing” and this allows us to listen from a non-dualistic space.
The moment we judge a sound we are back in the dualistic world of the mind and we will not be able to enter the door of Oneness and perceive its divine qualities.
This is not unlike our sitting meditation practice when we observe thoughts coming and going without getting involved and without judging them as “good thoughts” or “bad thoughts”. The moment we start judging them we are back in the turning wheel of the mind.
As a listener, did you notice that the more quiet you become, the more you can hear?
To me, this points to the fact that whatever perceives sound is the silent space inside of us and the more silent we can become the better sounds can be perceived and defined, and their divine “sweet” nature revealed. Every sound thus, even the most mundane, becomes a doorway to a deeper reality.
Through this process one is bound to stumble upon the understanding that all sounds perceived by us as coming from the outside and floating into space-silence are also perceived inside of us in space-silence.
At this point one starts wondering if there is actually any separation between the “outside” and the “inside”… could it be that the ever-present space-silence outside of our body is the SAME as the one inside of us? Could it be that there is no inside and outside as far as space-consciousness is concerned?
I often asked myself what is it in me that perceives sounds? The ears are only a channel, an entryway, but sound is perceived at a deeper level. This becomes obvious to me every time I enter or come out of sleep: if sounds were perceived just by the ears then I would be able to hear sounds all the time even while I am asleep. But I don’t. As I fall deeper into sleep, sounds are no longer there (that is why people can fall asleep in front of a blaring TV screen).
When I am conscious sounds are there but when I am unconscious they disappear, therefore whatever is perceiving sound seems to be related with consciousness.
At times, I experience an empty silent space inside of me where no ripples are created by any wandering thoughts. I question: is this where consciousness dwells? Or is this what consciousness is ?
Indeed it seems to me that the closest thing comparable to consciousness is this space-silence. This leads me back to the fact that moving from an object-related awareness to a space-related awareness will bring about a deeper understanding of Self.
Once I heard Osho say that senses are doorways, and as one can walk through the door to go outside, one can change direction and go inside through the same door. He said that senses are like a double pointed arrow.
I personally resonate with this embodied approach to life, where the body and its senses are an integral part and expression of who we are as conscious beings on this planet. Many spiritual paths disregard the body as “not who we are”. To me this approach is not only a bit outdated but it can also be harmful as it recreates the dualistic separation between above and below, inside and outside, spirit and matter.
Over the last few years this deepening relationship with sound and silence has inspired me to lead music meditations where music is used to point to the container: silence.
As a musician, when I allow music to arise out of the inner silence, it carries a different quality. This is music that does not try to override silence but emerges from it. In this space, the contained and the container are interlaced in a harmonious play where sound eventually disappears back into the space from where it came, making silence more tangible, within and without.
I can’t help but feel that like a sound-wave returning into the ocean of silence, I too will go back from where I came. It is as if each of us is a piece of music, a unique song existence has chosen to play out of the eternal silence, out of the space in which eventually we will all be reunited.
The fastest way to improve your meditation practice is to see everything you do during the day as an opportunity to cultivate pristine awareness. Show up for life with eyes wide open! Show up for the small stuff especially. That’s where you want to fall asleep. It’s easy for the mind to wander when you feel bored by a small task.
Meditation in action also known as mindfulness, is an opportunity to practice continuum awareness. To stay connected to the present moment, you want to turn every activity of the day into an opportunity to deepen your practice.
Meditation is not just about sitting on a cushion with your eyes closed. It’s about being alert, awake and open to the moment you are living in. When you meditate on the task at hand, you are creating a conscious relationship with your experience as it arises.
These are the six areas we advise would be beneficial to train yourself not to let your mind wander off.
1) Dishes – Pay attention to how you scrub the food particles and the order of which dishes you wash first and how you stack the dishwasher. Are you slouching? Are your feet squarely grounded on the floor? Are your body and spine straight? Notice if you are resisting the task.
2) Taking a shower – Activate your sense of touch and feel the temperature of the water. How do you touch and wash your own body. Slow down and be present to the foam, the bubbles and how you scrub yourself. Are you rushing to get to the next moment?
3) Folding laundry – Practice precision awareness. Make elegant folds and breath into the experience. Learn to master space in your closets and feel how different textures require different handling.
4) Driving a car – Practice multi-directional awareness. Be aware of the space in front, behind, left, and right – Pay attention to your breath as you inhale and exhale. When your mind wanders, gently redirect your attention back to the breath and the road. At every stop sign and light, take a conscious breath. Are you rushing to get somewhere?
5) Sweeping – Find your flow. Connect the body to breath. We call this the dancing meditation. You aren’t sweeping. You are dancing with life and with every swish of the broom, the past is being released.
6) In Conversation (advanced practice) – While talking or listening, focus on their eyes primarily but look at their lips once and awhile. Be aware of your heart when you speak and your inner ear lobe when you are listening. Pay attention to how ideas, opinions and words cause emotional reactivity and stay cool. Keep returning to insight questions: Do I have all the facts? Is this true? What is this person really wanting to share with me?
by Evangelos Diavolitsis and Nishta Matarese
Evangelos and Nishta are international Dharma, meditation and movement teachers and the founders of Four Ways to Freedom.
Recently, we have had a massive earthquake in Turkey. Due to human greed and negligence, the aftermath of the natural disaster was devastation. A few days after the tragedy, I went to teach at a Mandali Experience and a very dear friend of mine went to the devastation zone to help. After we both returned, we shared experiences.
What he told me about being a disaster victim, shook me to my core. Because he himself had been a victim of the ’99 earthquake, he was able to see in others what he himself had experienced so many years ago. This is how he described the human condition in a disaster zone:
“One night you go to bed and you have everything. Even if you are not wealthy, you still have a roof over your head, you have your family, you have your belongings and most importantly, you have your life. The next day, you have almost nothing. You are in need of even that one glass of water that someone is going to give you. You see, the ego is slow. It does not catch up with reality so fast. It is so difficult to accept that within a matter of seconds, you have gone from having everything to needing everything. And it is very challenging to come to terms with accepting help from others.”
Meanwhile, I was teaching yoga during a Mandali Experience and before one of our practices, I asked my fellow yogis, “What is beautiful?”. I was trying to draw our awareness to a completely different perspective and for the question I could have picked any adjective or noun, any word basically but coincidentally I chose beautiful. One of the participants came up with a definition that resonated deeply with all of us: “Beautiful is being taken care of by the ones you love”.
From what I observe, for most of us, giving comes more naturally than receiving. We define our roles as mothers, fathers, partners, siblings, daughters, sons, friends, employers, employees mostly in terms of what we give. But when it comes to receiving, we are mostly amateurs. I know I am. I am so used to being strong and capable and self-sufficient that when I am not so, I find it difficult to ask for support from my fellow humans. So as I am writing these lines, I am not preaching. I am sharing a vulnerability that I am currently and constantly working on. Listening to the heartfelt sharings of Mandali Experience participants and to the stories of earthquake victims, I know I am not alone.
We all have a lot to learn on the beauty of being taken care of. And maybe, we can fine tune ourselves to learn to see and experience this beauty without needing dramatic life circumstances like natural disasters or illnesses.
Can we learn to ask for and receive support from others in the more ordinary moments of life when all we need is a simple hug, or someone’s undivided and non-judgemental attention for a few minutes, or just the comfort of sitting with someone without a need for words?
Can we learn to ask for and receive support from others before unmet simple needs amalgamate to bitter scorn?
What I have come to observe on the art of receiving is that where we come from is what makes all the difference. The ego is capricious and unbendable. When in need it becomes bitter and scornful. It expects but cannot communicate. When disappointed, it screams and scolds. When receiving it is uncomfortable and critical. The heart on the other hand is generous and malleable. When in need it is communicative, receptive and rewarding. There is not a human being who will not be touched and transformed by responding and giving to another human asking and receiving from the heart. It is a mutually enriching experience.
We are all living in an ego driven and ego rewarding global society. Within such a challenging social environment, the art of being human lies in mastering to keep an open heart. A heart that is not only generous in giving but also gentle yet courageous in asking and receiving.
